I keep seeing posts talking about Daphne getting hated on when Bay isn’t and really, I’m laughing because all I see is Bay hate. A lot of it is unwarranted in my opinion.
The difference in being a Bay fan is that I can acknowledge when she does shitty things and exhibits problematic behaviors and attitudes. I can admit she was harsh to Daphne yesterday. However, I can also understand (not condone - important to note the difference - ) where she was coming from.
But it seems like every other character fan cannot ever express when their character fucks up.
When Daphne messes up, it’s whitewashed and excused.
When Ty lies about cheating, it’s romanticized and deemed a noble act. When he emotionally manipulates her (yes, he really did. Please watch the scene again) into climbing a tower because he was insecure because she dumped him for Emmett (important to note not exactly how it happened), it’s “understandable” and also somehow becomes Bay’s fault because she got hurt when she didn’t follow his instructions…meanwhile it was never something she wanted to participate in in the first place.
Bay cheats on Tank (not right nor does it make it right because she has true love with Emmett. See? I can admit Bay’s wrongdoings!) and therefore the fact that he threw his depledging in her face - an act she never asked him to do - before he knew about the cheating is okay. Pre-cheating it was also okay that he got extremely defensive when she didn’t want to sleep with him and then even though he gave her fed her a really offensive and patronizing line about not remembering she’s still in high school, which essentially has the subtext of damn, too bad. College girls give it up way more easy, he was forgiven. And Bay was called a tease.
Even Emmett. I love Emmett, I do, but him telling Bay he wouldn’t wait around for her anymore (again, Bay never asks these guys to do these things) because she was too blind to see that yet another boyfriend of hers was cheating (or rather into someone else) was also shitty.
Here’s what you can blame Bay for:
Here’s what you cannot blame Bay for:
You can also understand and not necessarily condone or agree with Bay’s behaviors. There is a difference.
I’m a proud member of the Bay Kennish fan club.
Current members: Two.
Haters: A billion and counting…..